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The Autoimmune Protocol (AIP) is meant to be approached in stages — transition, elimination, maintenance, and reintroduction.
Many people get stuck: either they stay too long in strict elimination because they’re feeling great and are intimidated by reactions, or they get impatient and add foods back too quickly, or without thoughtful tracking, making all their hard work futile.
By now, you should have a good understanding of the AIP and its stages. If not, go back to Start Here #1 to get fully grounded.
To re-cap a little, however:
Here’s the exciting update: Mickey Trescott’s New Autoimmune Protocol now includes a transition stage.
Before, you had a choice — cold turkey or slow and steady. Now, slow and steady is strongly promoted because it’s more sustainable, reduces overwhelm, and sets you up for success in both elimination and reintroduction. Think of it as easing into the AIP rather than jumping off a cliff. Your body and your sanity will thank you.
Let’s be clear: reintroductions are not a “maybe” — they’re essential.
This is where the real food trials happen:
This stage is where the magic really starts: you’ll regain variety, flexibility, and confidence in your food choices, while gathering personal data on what works for YOU.
Here’s the hard truth: there’s no one-size-fits-all answer.
Perspective: Healing takes time — your body didn’t get here overnight. But your body is remarkable and capable of repairing itself when given the right tools.
If you feel you should be ready but aren’t improving, step back and assess other factors: stress, sleep, movement, and environmental exposures. For more, see Troubleshooting the AIP.
Important: If you’ve followed the full protocol (including lifestyle changes) for 90+ days and still see no improvement, please, seek guidance from a professional to explore the possibility of underlying causes that may be holding you back.
Find a practitioner near you – click here.
Some may want to rush into reintroductions, but remember … slow and steady wins the AIP Race!
Resist the urge to start too soon, and resist the urge to “wing it” when it comes to reintroductions. You’ve put in 30–90 days (or maybe even more) on the elimination stage — don’t waste that effort by throwing in the towel or deciding for yourself how best to reintroduce foods.
The elimination stage was meant to give your body the space it needs to rest and reset. If you’ve been patient and are feeling quite well, reintroductions will likely be an easier process. Starting with a “clean slate” allows your body to clearly signal when a food isn’t agreeing with you — helping you recognize the cues your body is sending.
That said, be sure to follow a systematic reintroduction plan, including keeping a food and symptom journal (more about that in the resources below).
So, how do you get started? Here are the guides and resources I recommend for best results.
What ever you do, keep moving forward – there are no rewards for longest amount of time spent in the AIP elimination stage!
Some people in the AIP Recipe Collection Facebook Group proudly announce they’ve been strict elimination for 759 days … and I just can’t. No. No. No.
I mean, I get it — there are a lot of folks out there who feel too darn good after having eliminated the top inflammatory offenders from their lives, and they don’t want to go back to feeling horrible again. But this is exactly where food fear creeps in, and it’s why you sometimes hear people saying, “the AIP is a dangerous, restrictive diet that just keeps people sick.”
Let’s be clear: elimination diets and the reintroduction process are still considered the gold standard for assessing food allergies and sensitivities — even more reliable than largely inaccurate food sensitivity or allergy testing (you can read more about that here if you’re curious).
Reintroductions are just practical! They help improve your quality of life and open up your ability to socialize more freely.
If you remember, back at the beginning when we started talking about the AIP, what we’d eat, and what we’d avoid, we specifically said there were some very nutritious foods that would be eliminated — TEMPORARILY!
Limiting or restricting food groups long-term can cause dysbiosis in the gut and nutritional deficiencies, so we need to get those foods back into our diets as soon as possible if they’re not problematic for your individual case.
Summary of the AIP Elimination Phase:
All of this said, I hope you see how important it is that you MUST put on your big people pants and take on reintroductions. You’ve already proven that you can do hard things by making it this far — reintroductions are just the next step … and you’ve got this!
Don’t be a case that perpetuates the myths and misconceptions about this protocol – keep moving!
Reintroductions can be tricky, but like I said, you can do hard things. It’s always tempting to try to compare your reactions with someone else’s, but the bottom line is that this too is VERY individual. You will need to keep good track as you go along so you can recognize signs and symptoms of reactions and celebrate all the wins along the way.
My go-to suggestion for all things AIP from transition through elimination, reintroductions and maintenance is Mickey Trescott’s Autoimmune Protocol books. The New Autoimmune Protocol (2026) covers the latest in research and is the first I’d suggest. Browse the options in my AIP Amazon Storefronts here: USA / Canada /UK
As of June 2021, the first cookbook dedicated to AIP reintroductions was released, and it’s spectacular! It’s great for all stages of the AIP and a great motivator. It discusses the process of reintros and provides delicious recipes to keep you progressing – check out my review here – The Autoimmune Protocol Reintroduction Cookbook – Kate Jay of Healing Family Eats (NOTE: One caveat to this recommendation is that the AIP was updated in 2024, so this book does NOT include information about the “modified” elimination state – it is based on “core” AIP elimination as your assumed starting point.)
Articles from trusted AIP experts:
Definitive Guide To Reintroductions – Autoimmune Wellness
Personalized AIP – Autoimmune Wellness
Top 5 Mistakes People Make Reintroducing Foods – Eileen Baird
Why Aren’t My AIP Reintroductions Working?
Looking for a list of AIP approved foods or recommendations on where to find ingredients?
Visit our Food Lists Page – click here to be redirected or our Food Sourcing Page – click here to be redirected.
If you’re new to AIP, this page is here to give you a clear, grounded overview of what the Autoimmune Protocol actually is, why it works for so many people, and how to think about it as you begin.
I’m not going to dive deeply into biochemistry or recreate the excellent research-informed material that already exists elsewhere. My goal is to help you understand the big picture — with links and resources if you want to explore further.
AIP stands for Autoimmune Protocol. You may also hear it called the Autoimmune Paleo approach, though that name can be misleading.
While it grew out of Paleo principles, AIP is about far more than diet alone. Food is one pillar — an important one — but lifestyle factors are equally important to the protocol, and we’ll explore those in more detail as we go.
At its core, the AIP builds on a modified version of the Paleo diet, with a stronger emphasis on nutrient density, immune support and gut health. The aim is to give your body the raw materials it needs for immune regulation, hormone balance, tissue repair, and overall resilience — while reducing exposure to common inflammatory triggers from both diet and lifestyle.
AIP simplifies food choices into two broad categories:
When done properly, AIP is balanced, nourishing, and satisfying. It prioritizes nutrient-dense foods like vegetables, fruit, seafood, organ meats, mushrooms, fresh herbs, quality proteins, and healthy fats.
This isn’t about eating less or chasing perfection — it’s about eating intentionally and mindfully.
The Autoimmune Protocol unfolds in several phases. Some say it’s three, but I prefer to look at it this way:
This structure emphasizes flexibility and personalization — the AIP is not one-size-fits-all, and the goal is sustainable progress, not perfection.
Food is central, but lifestyle factors are just as critical. Sleep, stress management, movement, time outdoors, and emotional well-being all affect immune function, gut health, and hormone balance. Think of AIP as a toolbox of strategies to help you make consistent, sustainable choices for your unique health needs.
In short: AIP is about learning what helps your body thrive — not following rigid rules.
It’s practical, flexible, and designed to empower you to feel better from the inside out.
It’s important not to get stuck in a cycle of endless research — but at the same time, having a solid understanding of the fundamentals will help you start on the right foot and avoid unnecessary frustration.
My #1 Recommendation: The New Autoimmune Protocol (Releasing May 26, 2026)This is the definitive guidebook that the AIP Recipe Collection uses as its primary reference for the group and website. It’s the resource that provides real, practical answers to any question about the Autoimmune Protocol — the book we turn to for clarity, guidance, and reliable information.
The New Autoimmune Protocol is the first official update to the science-backed framework, integrating emerging research and years of clinical feedback to make the protocol more flexible and sustainable.
It includes:
Pre-order now to be among the first to access this updated, authoritative guide: The New Autoimmune Protocol – learn more here
If you’re here before The New Autoimmune Protocol is released, or if you’d like to explore other aspects of AIP — like reintroductions, ethnic cuisine, comfort foods, meal prep, or mindset support — I’ve curated a selection of the best books and resources to help you along your journey.
All of these trusted AIP guides and more are available in my AIP Amazon Storefront in the Curated Book Section : USA / Canada /UK
Nutrition is only one piece of the healing puzzle. AIP isn’t about one “perfect” pillar — it’s about making consistent, sustainable changes across diet and lifestyle.
To help you focus on where to begin, check out my post: Where Should You Start Your AIP Healing Journey? — a practical guide to approaching AIP in a way that’s supportive, flexible, and grounded in real life.
Remember: You don’t need to do everything at once. Progress matters more than perfection.
Many people aim to start AIP around New Year’s resolutions, but timing can make a difference. Choosing a period when your life is more manageable can help set you up for success and make the protocol feel less overwhelming.
Learn more here: When Should You Start Your AIP Healing Journey?
AIP isn’t just for people with autoimmune disease. Inflammation plays a role in many chronic conditions, and food is one of the most accessible ways to influence it. The Autoimmune Protocol focuses on nourishing the body, reducing inflammatory load, and supporting immune regulation — benefits that extend beyond autoimmune diagnoses.
That said, AIP is not a replacement for medical care. It works best alongside conventional medicine, medications, supplements, and functional or integrative approaches. Always check with your healthcare provider before making major diet or lifestyle changes.
At its core, AIP is a flexible framework or toolbox — a collection of best practices around food and lifestyle — that can be personalized to your circumstances and goals, especially when your health challenges mean your body has less tolerance for suboptimal choices.
If you’re unable to purchase a guidebook right now — or want to share clear explanations with friends and family — these are excellent starting points:
If you anticipate challenges transitioning to AIP or sticking with it, check out my Coaching Page for additional support and resources.
To keep this page focused on the fundamentals, deeper topics and resources are saved for the next step in the series:
👉 Beginner Resources – Start Here (Part 2)
Now that you’re more comfortable with the basics of AIP (if you missed it, check out Start Here Part 1), let’s explore additional resources that can make your Autoimmune Protocol journey easier, more enjoyable, and sustainable.
Food lists are essential for getting started. Concentrate your efforts here next. See my detailed Food Lists page to guide your shopping and meal prep effectively.
Preparing mentally is just as important as preparing your kitchen. Take a moment to:
Acknowledge your feelings — grieving over illness is part of the healing journey. Read my post about this so you don’t feel so alone.
Establish your baseline — take note of how you feel now: your energy, symptoms, sleep quality, mood, and any other relevant factors. This helps you track progress over time. Without a baseline, it’s easy to feel like you’re not making progress, even when you are. Observing small improvements can be incredibly motivating and empowering.
Use positive affirmations — it really helps your brain and body during challenging times. My favorite, as corny as it sounds, is:
“My body is capable of doing wonderful things and of healing; I just need to give it the tools to do the job.”
Give yourself permission not to be perfect — it’s next to impossible to be 100% AIP all the time.
Be thankful — even if it’s just for the fact that your healing journey will be easier than those who came before you when these resources weren’t available. Then, put on your big girl/boy pants and move forward!
Read Angie Alt’s post for more guidance: 6 Ways to Mentally Prep for the AIP.
Simplicity is key to long-term success on the AIP. I talk about it in my own motivational page, where I share some fundamentals to maintaining your sanity on the AIP.
Some of the key areas I suggest focusing on there are:
For some additional practical guidance, I recommend the tips found at Autoimmune Wellness: 5 Ways to Keep It Simple on the AIP
Many people ask about AIP-friendly kitchen tools. Here are my top resources:
I’m honored to have been included in this tour back in July 2018 — you can check out my kitchen here!
Stay motivated and on track with “Real Plans,” the meal planning app designed specifically for AIP. Learn more in my review or sign up directly. Subscribers to my AIP Recipe Collection Newsletter receive 40% off! Sign up for that here.
The AIP Manifesto is a quick, empowering read summarizing 20 core principles to help you feel confident and motivated on your AIP journey.
Sign up for my monthly newsletter to receive seasonal recipe round-ups, inspiration, and exclusive AIP lifestyle content — perfect for staying on track and feeling supported. It’s FREE!
If you’re hungry for more information, want to refine your approach, looking to dive deeper into AIP strategies, or in need of back-up assistance to troubleshoot what you’re experiencing , check out Start Here Part 3: Digging Deeper & Troubleshooting for advanced tips, do’s and don’ts, and practical guidance.
Unfortunately, there may come a time when you feel it’s one step forward and two steps back. When that happens, it can help to dig a little deeper into the do’s and don’ts and start some troubleshooting.
Proper tracking is essential to know what’s working and what isn’t. By tracking, I mean everything you consume, your daily activities (work, sleep, exercise, relaxation, self-care), stress levels, reactions to foods and supplements, medications, and more. Reactions can be subtle — things like itching, skin problems, dizziness, congestion, or pain.
I call this type of tracking a food/mood/poop journal. Yes, it’s a real thing! Even if you’re not ready to start a full journal yet, here’s why it’s so important:
It’s only by truly giving the Autoimmune Protocol your full attention that you’ll know what’s really working.
Check out my post on Finding Your Root Cause for guidance on identifying what might be holding back your progress.
Before troubleshooting, ask yourself: did you truly follow the protocol correctly?
If you’re ready to troubleshoot, keep reading.
Sometimes people experience what’s called a “healing crisis” — where symptoms temporarily flare when the begin the elimination phase.
If you’re feeling worse than before you began, you may be scared or want to give up. I suggest considering these resources:
The best article I’ve found on troubleshooting the AIP is by Mickey Trescott of Autoimmune Wellness: Troubleshooting the Autoimmune Protocol — A Guide. She explains:
If you’ve gone through the above steps and still can’t pinpoint the problem, I highly recommend consulting a Functional Medicine Practitioner or Certified AIP Health Coach.
Without addressing underlying issues, the AIP can feel like “putting a band-aid on a battleship.”
Find professional support here, including a list of Paleo-Friendly Autoimmune Specialist MDs.
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NOTE: As with any significant dietary change, you should only undertake the AIP under the guidance of a trained nutritional coach or physician.
As you probably know by now, the Autoimmune Protocol is about far more than food. While diet plays a powerful part, long-term healing on the AIP requires a broader, more holistic approach.
To be truly support your journey to autoimmune wellness, it’s important to look beyond what’s on your plate and consider lifestyle factors that influence immune function, gut health, and hormone balance. Things like sleep, stress, movement, connection, and mindset play a much bigger role than most people expect — and they can either support your healing… or quietly hold it back.
If you’re newer to this concept, you may find it helpful to read The New Autoimmune Protocol, which expands on the lifestyle foundations that go hand-in-hand with the dietary side of AIP and explains why they matter so much.
Below are a few additional resources that build on these ideas and can help you put the “beyond food” pieces of the AIP into practice in a way that feels realistic and sustainable.
This is HUGE! Are you getting enough? What’s right for one might not be enough for another.
Did you know that not getting enough sleep causes inflammation and increased susceptibility to infection – even in healthy people! Studies show that one night of poor sleep causes higher insulin resistance than six months of bad diet! In fact, scientific studies show that sleep may be even more important for our health than diet! Now, if that’s not enough to make you take a serious look at your sleep routine, I don’t know what is! Check out my expanded post on Sleep Struggles – Click Here.
It’s recommended that we get to bed by 10 pm for optimal rest and recovery, and that we get 7 to 10 hours of sleep per night (for autoimmune sufferers it might be 9-10 hours or even 12 hours every night to heal).
Did you know that for every five minutes of upset it takes your body six to eight hours to calm down biochemically! Those numbers are staggering. Imagine what long-term, chronic stress is doing to your body. Without getting into a bunch of science about cortisol, adrenaline, hormones and more (I’ll leave that to the experts – check out this article from Dr. Ballantyne – How Stress Undermines Health), simply know that when under stress, your body misuses its precious resources leaving your immune system weak and your body vulnerable to disease.
Finding effective ways to reduce and manage stress is imperative for our healing journeys – it’s been one of my biggest challenges, and I still need regular reminders. It’s essential for maintaining a healthy gut, normal immune function and balanced hormones. Each of us will need to find effective ways to deal with our individual stressors. For some it may be as simple as learning to slow down, scheduling deep breathing exercises and meditation, healthy self-care activities like yoga or gentle autoimmune safe exercise (see below). For others, more may be involved and you may need to seek the support an guidance of a professional to help deal with past or present traumas, personality traits or difficult situations. If you’re looking for a motivation on this, join me on Instagram.
Everyone knows that exercise and activity are good for our health, but what should you do when you’re faced with chronic illness and you often don’t have the energy to do much more than get out of bed in the morning?
Not surprising then that the most commonly avoided part of the autoimmune protocol is exercise.
There are lots of ways to incorporate light activity into your day. For some it might be just a reminder by way of a timer on your phone to get up and stretch or move around a little. Short walks, yoga, rebounding and stretching might be as much as you can achieve, while others may feel they’re capable of more but are unsure of how to approach an exercise program safely so they don’t face setbacks.
By now you probably realize that alcohol is out on the AIP … but you’re likely wondering the whys behind it and how you’ll possibly manage to get through family functions, social events, the holidays and what are you possibly going to do to constantly dodge casual drinks after work!
This post will cover they whys, a glimmer of hope and my take on the situation. If you haven’t already seen my post on Surviving Social Life on the AIP, you’ll want to make that your next stop after this post, because what ever you do, you don’t want to isolate yourself just because the AIP can be hard. You’re strong and you can do hard things … you’ve got this!
So – what’s the real deal about alcohol? So many health gurus are touting it as “good for your health” – especially wine! So why do we need to avoid it on the AIP?
Be sure to read Dr. Sarah Ballantyne’s full article – The Whys Behind The AIP: Alcohol – click here. (The following are a few of the most important snippets and are direct quotes taken from the article.)
Highlights From the Article:
Why This Is EVEN MORE IMPORTANT If You Have Autoimmune Disease:
Will I Ever Be Able to Drink Alcohol Again?
Read the full article – The Whys Behind The AIP: Alcohol – click here.
You may also want to consider this article – Understanding Your Social & Emotional Relationship With Alcohol – click here.
I’ve taken a lot of questions from distraught members about this topic, so I’m compelled to include some personal comments and reminders here to help you keep this all in perspective. Trust me, you’re not alone, this is not the end of the world, you will get through this too! You’ve got this!
Looking for some great alternatives to alcohol on the AIP? There are LOTS of great recipes posted in our Facebook Group – simply use the group search feature there and look for “mocktail” “cocktail” or “beverage” or the exact name of what you’re looking, for like “iced tea” “lemonade” “egg nog” or “mule” – I even use a hashtag there called thirstythursday, so you can search for that too! Trust me, there are LOTS of great options so you won’t feel left out! ♥
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Whether you live in an area prone to tropical storms, earthquakes and wildfires or not, this post is important for anyone on a restricted diet. (Note, you may also want to read my article on the AIP & COVID-19 for more advice and support)
Wait! What are we talking about here? This topic could easily be misconstrued by readers, because let’s face it, an emergency when you’re on the AIP could simply mean having no energy to cook or to go to the grocery store! Keep reading … some of these emergency tips and suggested rations to have on hand could be a different kind of “life saver” when you’re worn out or in a rush.
Now … Back to our regularly scheduled PSA!
Most governments these days suggest that folks keep a “Go Bag” or “Bug Out Bag” and that they have emergency rations on hand in the event of power outages or emergency evacuations. Do you take it seriously? Do you have a go-bag with emergency AIP food you can safely eat?
As with everything on the AIP, preparation is key, so I’m hoping this post will help you to prepare in advance so you won’t experience additional stress in the case of an emergency.
Below is a list of some AIP rations I suggest keeping on hand at all times along with your family’s standard rations like water, first aid kits, a change of clothing, etc. There are lots of great Bug Out Bag prep lists on the internet – use Google to find a list of essentials suitable for your location and family.
The following is from an Instagram post Angie Alt shared a while back. If you don’t already follow her, you should – she’s awesome! I love her funny and sometimes pointed posts, and in her usual style she nailed this topic too. ♥ Here’s what she wrote:
PSA – PUBLIC SERVICE ANNOUNCEMENT:
In an emergency situation you just do whatever is necessary to be safe. Period.
AIP can be an important component of your long-term health with autoimmune disease, but short-term safety beats AIP every time. Life has hierarchies.I’m sharing this message today because over the last several years leading SAD to AIP in SIX groups we’ve had members go through all kinds of natural disasters. I wanted anyone in our community preparing for or evacuating ahead of Hurricane Florence to hear it from an “AIP Authority” that your best is good enough right now and you and your family’s safety is priority number one .. 100%
That said, here are some resources that might help should any of you need them.
Thank you @wendisaipkitchen – Sending the best vibes for safety and little to no damage for all the folks facing this right now. The AIP community is thinking of you. ♥
MEAT SNACKS & BONE BROTH
Meat Snacks
Bone Broth, Soups & Stews
Perfect Supplements – Powdered Bone Broth – Beef or Chicken – Just search “broth”
FREEZE DRIED AIP MEALS, SOUP, STEW & SNACKS
Wild Zora – Delicious Freeze-Dried Stew, Soup, Meat Bars & Fruit Snacks – Shop the AIP Compliant menu
Wild Zora even offers BULK Shopping Offers to help you stock your pantry with their shelf-stable AIP Compliant products at a discounted rate AND free shipping! SAVE 15% off with code: ZORAFAM15 (excludes bulk boxes).
SHELF-STABLE FOOD POUCHES
Serenity Kids – Shelf-stable, nutrient-dense, top-quality baby food (meat, veg and fruit) in sustainable pouches – they’re suitable for babies, kids, adults and even pets!
AIP SHOPS ON AMAZON – PACKAGED AIP SNACKS & MORE!
Since I know a lot of folks shop on Amazon, I’ve gone to great lengths to set up my own shops with AIP compliant items to make your life a lot easier! As always, check ingredient lists (I have before I added them to my recommendations, but products change from time to time, so always be safe!).
When I was first diagnosed with my autoimmune diseases I started a blog so my friends and family could check in on me. For me it was therapeutic and helped a lot not having to answer a dozen or more texts and emails every day asking the questions I hated (and still hate to this day): “How are you feeling today?” “I thought you were getting better?”
I found my blogging forced me to remain up-beat, and I always tried to put on a strong front. I’d always been a strong person and surely I wasn’t going to let this defeat me! Because of that I researched how to deal with chronic health issues and was fortunate enough to stumble across a great article that explained how facing such a diagnosis is really not that different than dealing with the 5 stages of grieving the loss of a loved one.
I wish I could share that post with you today, but sadly the blog has since been taken off-line. While I’ve looked around for other posts to share with you I’ve not found any that were as well written, so I’ve decided to take a stab at it myself.
❤ Denial ❤ Anger ❤ Bargaining ❤ Depression ❤ Acceptance ❤
Grieving over the loss of your health (or even your spouse’s health or your child’s health) is a very real thing. You’re left facing not just the loss of your health but the loss of plans you may have had for the future. You may be faced with the loss of your career, or even the loss of the ability to start a family. The list of losses can be long and the emotions that come with with can be very painful.
While the symptoms and severity of chronic illness differs from one case to the next, we all typically face in one fashion or another the 5 Stages of Grieving Over Illness: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance. We may not go through them in this set order and you may in fact revisit some stages as your healing journey goes on … because unfortunately healing is rarely linear and while we may see improvements, we may also encounter relapses that can be very discouraging.
No matter what stage you are in, it’s healthiest to accept it and the emotions we’re feeling. Don’t rush the process, just let it happen naturally and know what you’re going through is completely normal.
Any change or loss in your life is likely to bring denial, and learning that you have n autoimmune disease will likely deliver up large doses of it. If your illness or diagnosis came about suddenly you may literally not believe it to be the case. You may seek second and third opinions hoping you’ll find a better outcome. You may try to research your way out of it and turn to Dr. Google for a better prognosis – surely it must be something else! For people like us who embark on the Autoimmune Protocol lifestyle, denial may even come in the form of not wanting to eat properly or rejecting medications because we don’t think we need to – surely it can’t really help.
What often fuels denial is anger … you’re angry that you’re that “one in 10,000” to get a disease, or angry that you’re joining the throngs of what seems to be an epidemic of autoimmune disease suffers. At some point you’ll probably want to yell and scream and maybe even throw things, after-all, it’s just not fair! Anger may also be self-directed, meaning you may blame yourself and mentally beat yourself up for not noticing the signs or taking better care of yourself. And, while I’m not diminishing the frustration of a chronic illness diagnosis at any age, dealing with an autoimmune disease can be especially difficult for young people and those “in the prime of their life.” Watching your plans for the future disintegrate before your eyes is extremely frustrating, not to mention scary … you’re going to get angry.
Try as you might you can’t go back in time … but if you could you’d do anything to make your illness go away! You’d eat better, you’d exercise more, you’d slow down, take less overtime, you’d find ways to manage your stress. Sadly it doesn’t work that way and we can’t bargain our way out of our situation. You might find yourself researching and bouncing back to the denial stage wondering if perhaps it’s really something else that ails you. Wouldn’t we all rather trade our current illness for something less intense? Unfortunately no matter how hard we try, bargaining won’t work, but we can turn those thoughts around and start using them to our benefit … START NOW with eating better, exercising to the extent possible for our situation, step back and allow yourself to say “no” to all the demands on your time and learn how to manage our stress … these are all of vital importance to making your healing journey a success.
We all end up here eventually. It’s just shy of acceptance, we’ve given in and feel defeated or we’ve decided to throw in the towel – we just can’t deal with it anymore. We’re overcome by the feeling that nothing we do is going to make a difference and we’re never going to feel well again … all is lost. This stage is frighteningly easy to slip into and painfully hard to climb out of … but it’s completely normal. Having said that, it doesn’t make it any easier to deal with! It’s frustrating and depressing when you can’t do what you once could, you feel like you’ve entirely lost who you were, you begin to feel like a burden and keeping up appearances becomes almost impossible. Being with friends and family when you’re dealing with any illness can be difficult, but especially so when you’re on an restricted diet. It feels like your social life has vanished – you’re on the grain-free, nut-free, gluten-free, soy-free, fun-free diet … and who wants to be around that? While it may feel easier to simply isolate yourself, it’s best not to allow yourself to slide too deep into this stage of grief, or return to it too many times. Easier said than done … don’t I know it! But I’m hoping the information you’ll find throughout the pages of this website will help you learn ways to manage your grief and depression.
It may feel like it’s taking forever but sooner or later we all finally get to a point where we come to terms with our “new life.” We accept that “it is what it is.” We learn ways to cope with the changes to our bodies, the pain, the fatigue, and the multitude of other potential symptoms you might personally be facing. We realize that we can go on … because we have so far! We learn to celebrate the small victories and obstacles we’ve overcome – whether it’s one week on the AIP with no slip ups, several months and symptom free, starting reintroductions, coming off meds, or just getting out of bed and managing to make it through the day without bursting into tears … it’s the baby steps that count and they’re what will carry you through. As you realize what’s possible for you in your new life it becomes easier and easier to accept, but never feel bad if you circle back and find yourself re-visiting other stages of grief again … it happens.

As I said at the outset, you may not find yourself facing the stages of grieving your illness in this order, there’s no right or wrong here and there’s no time limit either. One thing you should know however … facing each of these stages, as difficult as they may be, are all necessary to your physical, emotional and psychological well-being. NEVER, EVER be ashamed of how you feel! Embrace the process and try simply to find ways to manage the emotions.
I find it helps to try to remain positive … notice I said try? I know that’s way easier said than done, but if you make it a regular habit of finding something to be appreciative each day it can help you snap out of self-pity mode and move forward on your healing journey.
Keep a journal. Take a head-to-toe approach, write down all of your complaints and symptoms (from head-to-toe) … you’ll be amazed and encouraged when you look back and see how far all those baby steps have taken you!
If you haven’t already read my motivational message, be sure to visit the page by clicking this link.
If you’re looking for additional support please be sure to read my blog post in the FAQ section: Where Can I Find Support – you’ll find a long list of suggestions and groups there.

After I wrote this article I found a wonderful lady on the internet – Kerry Jeffery – she’s been a huge motivation for me and I follow her on social media for insight and motivation. You may want to visit Emotional Autoimmunity – Navigating the Emotional Side of Life with Chronic Illness – you’ll find lots of amazing information there.
Be sure to sign up for Kerry’s VIP list and you’ll receive a FREE e-book called “Moving through the Grief of Chronic Illness”
You may also want to listen in to The Autoimmune Simplified Podcast where Kerry was a guest – it’s such a powerful episode. Not only does she take you briefly through the 9 stages of grief related to chronic illness, she shares her own story as she lives with four autoimmune diseases as a single mom – she’s such an inspiration!
Listen to the Podcast on your favorite platform (click the appropriate link below).
• Apple • Stitcher • Spotify •
Another amazing resource that I highly recommend you check out is the book by Eileen Laird called “Healing Mindset.”
What is a healing mindset? Simply put, it’s the practice of harnessing the anti-inflammatory power of our minds to support autoimmune health. It’s realizing that some thoughts and behaviors ramp up inflammation and others tone it down. This book is a roadmap to doing less of the former and more of the latter.
Inside, you’ll find over 90 mind-body techniques written specifically for people with autoimmune disease. It also includes beginner tips, advanced troubleshooting, and testimonials by fellow autoimmune warriors who have felt the power of the mind-body connection in their own lives.
Available from the Author, Eileen Laird as a PDF E-Book – Click here to purchase
Buy it on Amazon – USA / Canada / UK
I’m hopeful you’ll find some help and encouragement from this post and that you’ll use it from time to time when you need to snap out of the anger and depression, stop bargaining with yourself about what food you can and can’t eat and accept it by re-evaluating how far you’ve already come. ❤